My Creator First Pilot "Positively Sex!" airs Sunday night, May 16th @ 8pm EST

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An ex-boyfriend of mine is 10 years younger than I.

I met him at a time when he felt particularly lost. He was Under Construction, as someone so beautifully stated on Clubhouse the other day. My ex is a polymath engineer, tinkerer, builder, musician, philosopher… and he didn’t know what profession to pursue. He was confused. And it was hurting him.

We were living in Brooklyn, New York. One day we decided to go on a minor getaway. We took the Metro-North up to Cold Springs, and arrived too late for a proper hike … and so we wandered along a trail for a little while, huffing some oxygen, until it started to sprinkle. I remember that impending rain smell in the air, metallic and grassy, and I remember him telling me he didn’t know what to do. He didn’t know how to find his purpose.

I felt his anguish, the unmooredness of not believing that he knew … what he’s here to do, compounded by his worry that, as a man, not knowing his purpose left him bare.

Now, I thought I knew what he’s here to do. I thought (and still think) he’s here to soften the hearts of men in tech, to teach them how to feel again. He’s experienced in men’s work, extremely connected to his emotional landscape.

The concept of Ikigai flashed through me… The overlap of:

What you Love

What you’re Good At

What the World Needs, &

What you Can be Paid For

This seems a proper framework to guide one towards a profession.

But as far as purpose, it’s missing something. Something important. Something inextricably intertwined with purpose.

I believe your purpose lies at the intersection of:

Your Talents

Your Passion

& Your Pain

I know that my purpose is to make the world a more intimate place.

It is directly, viscerally, at the intersection of my talents (communication, touch, performing, writing), my passions (theatre, poetry, sensation play), and my pain: I was a really lonely kid, and I remained lonely at my core until 7 years ago, when I moved into a sex-positive intentional community at the age of 32.

I’m not lonely anymore.

And my wish is for no-one else to be, either.

The topic of my Clubhouse Creator First Pilot is: Sex @ a Distance

How can we feel connected, and engage with the erotic, from far apart?

Join us as we unravel this complicated theme with care, respect, pleasure, & playfulness!

Positively Sex!

A Clubhouse Creator First Pilot

Around the topic of:

S&x @ a Distance

Sunday night, May 16th

8pm EST / 5pm Pacific