This was my first year at Burning Man. That means that I was a “virgin.” That’s what they call newbies: virgins. In a way, I love it, because it reminds me of what Marcia B., co-founder of Cuddle Party said, when talking about a different sort of party altogether — a Cherry-Popping party. The idea is that “each person has an infinite… View Post
No Title No Description Dixie: And last year, we had a big crazy celebration wedding. We had had a friend die in a motorcycle accident, and it, just, made me think that life passes too fast. And you don’t ever stop and celebrate things. And, I knew that, our families were getting older and they hadn’t met each other and… View Post
FOMO. Fear. Of. Missing. Out. It’s a problem. It’s especially a problem now, because now, more than ever, we know what other people are doing. Back in the day, you used to have to write a letter. It could take weeks to get to them. More, if the rider got drunk or the horse was slow. Then, your correspondent would… View Post
48. libertine: horizontal with the doyenne of dirty stories horizontal is a podcast of intimacies recorded while lying down. In this episode, I lie down with sexual folklorist Dixie de la Tour. Dixie is the founder, curator, and host of Bawdy Storytelling, the longest-running sex storytelling series in the United States. Lila: I looove that you’re this, this, I don’t… View Post
A couple of years back, I had this unfamiliar — yet nearly intelligible emotion. It was a tip-of-the-tongue sort of feeling. Like an aroma I couldn’t quite place. A dream smell, maybe. I remember something like it the first day I opened a car door in Nevada. It was 2008. My first cross-country road trip. We stopped on the shoulder… View Post
When I was a teenager, and nearly the only place for me to hang out in suburban Florida was my local Barnes & Noble, I found a book called spilling open. Sabrina Ward Harrison, at the age of 21, published excerpts from her sketchbook, a compressed collage full of self-portraits and color and painted photographs and tender wonderings and frank… View Post
46. 12 ways to say no gracefully: horizontal with the co-founder of cuddle party horizontal is the podcast of intimacies that’s recorded while lying down. In this episode, I get the opposite of vertical with Marcia B., co-founder of Cuddle Party, creator of The Good Girl Recovery Program, and co-leader of weekend intensives like “Make Hot Play Happen” and “The… View Post
Dear Ones, Okay, so, I’m announcing this a couple of months late, but on May 21st, 2018, horizontal with lila celebrated its first anniversary. Birthday? Birth-aversary? One year. One year of horizontal. ONE YEAR OF HORIZONTAL! And I celebrated like this: And also like this: I have much to celebrate. I’ve never before hit the one year mark on a… View Post
No Title No Description Stevie: So, about a year ago— so, my best friend, her name is Danielle Owens-Reid — I recommended that you should take her on the podcast, because she’s fucking great. Um— Lila: Yes please. Stevie: We’ve been friends for … four years? And I like, tell her everything. And, about a year ago, she told me,… View Post
42. nipple orgasms: horizontal with youtube’s lesbian sexpert Welcome to horizontal, the podcast about intimacy of all kinds. It’s recorded while the opposite of vertical, but you probably know that. This episode was recorded in October, 2017, on horizontal does america, my 10,000 mile cross-country road trip and recording tour. Stevie: Yeah, I just remembered my first kiss. Because I… View Post