When I was in middle school, a few of the boys were fond of this game. They’d proffer something in their hands — a glittery pen, a juice box, a sticker or something, and ask, “You want this?” If I said yes — and sometimes before I had the chance to say anything — they’d snatch the thing away with… View Post
To listen to this episode, click here. . . Shaun: I mean, I have intimate relationships with a lot, a lot of men in my life. But they’re not physical. There’s no cuddling. […] And I think I heard you say something about being touch-starved. (Lila mmhms) Which I love, that, being able to put a name to what I’ve… View Post
“I wanted us just to spend some time together, get to know each other,” he said. “Well, you’re certainly getting to know a lot about me,” I replied, weeping. *** When I was twenty-eight years old, I traveled the world with a carry-on, looking for an anchor. I didn’t see much of it, the world. I went up and down the East… View Post
57. fear of intimacy: horizontal with the love (drive) podcaster Horizontal is a podcast of intimacies recorded while lying down. I’m really glad you’re here. You can think of it as consensual eavesdropping.Together, we’re making private conversations public, so that we can dispel shame, diminish loneliness, and alchemize human connection. [Note: Shaun is speaking of his teenage self!] Shaun: I…… View Post
55. touch hunger: horizontal with a professional nurturer This week and next week’s episodes are the last ones recorded on my horizontal does america tour, which took place in October & November of 2017. Lucid Studios NYC provided a car, and I went on a solo road trip adventure, circumnavigating the U.S., covering 10,700 miles and recording with people in… View Post
No Title No Description Wry: I think it starts with very small statements of integrity. It’s something that takes time, and, and yet, sometimes it’s there instantly. It’s difficult to even answer this question, it’s like, How do you build love? How do you build connection? Lila: Are there calibration tools you use? Wry: Definitely. I mentioned face-slapping. Uh, when… View Post
53. sperm control: horizontal with a nonmonogamy consultant Horizontal is a podcast about intimacy. It’s recorded while lying down, wearing robes, sharing a single pillow. I take you into my bed (or in the case of these episodes, recorded while I was on the road across America, someone else’s bed), and let your ears watch as I unzip intimate conversations…. View Post
52. permission to change your mind: quickie with a sex therapist This episode was recorded on my horizontal does america tour in November of 2017. I took to the road in a little blue car and drove solo around the country with two intentions: to feel as free as I could possibly feel, and to lie down and record as… View Post
No Title No Description Pamela: I used to teach at a school, here in L.A., just for a couple of years, that is a super radical alternative school, where, apparently— I also was partnered for almost five years with a man who had been a student there as a child, and then, grew up and became a teacher there. And… View Post
50. your pussy is not a sheath: horizontal with a vagina whisperer Welcome back to horizontal! I missed you. This is the podcast of intimacies recorded while lying down, wearing robes. It aims to make private conversations public in order to dispel shame, diminish loneliness, and alchemize connection. Pamela: I was teaching cervical self-exams throughout the day to small groups,… View Post