Intimacy Coaching with Lila!
My name is Lila, and I am an Intimacy Coach. I can help you connect with your most honest desires, explore anything you’re curious about in the intimate world, and peel back layers of shame and stigma that do not belong to you. In other words, I can help you set your desires free!
“The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.” – Esther Perel
If you’re unhappy, it’s entirely likely that you don’t have enough intimacy in your relationships. When relationships are nourishing, it’s because of intimacy. When they’re draining, it’s also because of intimacy (the lack of it)!
Intimacy is the secret sauce. It’s the currency of the heart. It’s the thing that makes all other life stuff worthwhile…
And most of us were never taught the skills we need to create it.
Of all the things you could set your mind to, intimacy has the most potential to drastically improve your quality of life.
What even is intimacy?
Intimacy is the connection that nourishes people in a relationship, and the relationship itself. Intimacy is not sex. And it’s not just for romantic relationships. Intimacy is for every close relationship.
A relationship is not you, and it’s not me, it’s a third thing – a thing that we create together. Relationships are like chemical equations. Each of us is a different, distinct substance. When added together, we produce different products. The product is the relationship. I call it the between-us.
Switch out one substance, you get a different product. Change one substance, you get a different product.
Intimacy is the connection that nourishes the between-us.
You can grow your capacity for intimacy. I can guide you. All you need is the desire for more intimate relationships, and the willingness to explore doing things differently. This is the very same desire and willingness that helped you learn everything worth learning in your life!
What is intimacy coaching for?
If you…
- want more pleasure
- need to figure out what you really want
- feel out of touch with your self and your emotions
- desire a sexier, more fulfilling romantic relationship
- have sexual challenges
- have dating issues
- want to learn about nonmonogamy & alternative relationship styles
- are curious about kink & BDSM
- struggle with your family of origin and want to cultivate chosen family
- have issues in your community
I offer caring, playful sex-positive, kink-aware, poly friendly, LGBTQ+ celebratory, gender-affirming guidance on your intimate struggles (and fascinations).
One happy client says, “I’ve had a lot of therapy. But you give advice a therapist cannot give!”
Is intimacy coaching the right choice for you?
Schedule a call to find out!